On Expectations
One of the worst things you can do to the people around you is to have expectations that you’re not clear about yourself, or you are and they don’t know about it. It’s the easiest way to sour a relationship – any kind of relationship. Don’t go hoping the other side’s telepathically connected to you and knows exactly what you want. They’re not, and they don’t. As close as your relationship is, in my experience (as meagre as it may be) nothing is ever close enough to convey well enough what you want, when you want it and who you want it from. Give it a shot the first time, wait to see if the other side picks up the hints, and if they don’t, do both of yourselves a favour and lay all your cards on the table. Ditch the poker faces and ask what you want to. And if they can’t give it to you, stop expecting them to. Just stop. Don’t push them on and on and on and on till everytime you talk to them it’s all they can do to stop gritting their teeth or punching the wall till their knuckles bleed but still they listen to you because they don’t want to let you down though you can’t pick up the hints. It can happen.
Better yet, nip this all in the bud. Try not to have any expectations of what you mean to others and what they’d be ready to do for you. You do mean a lot and vice versa, no doubt, but for the love of God, listen to what the other side is saying if you do end up having expectations. But try not to expect too much from anyone, it’s not worth it in the end.
No, there are no exceptions. No one. Not even the guy you saved from the burning building or who you helped pass his last examination. No one owes you what you think they do. You, on the other hand, might owe them something. Think about that.
P.S. This isn't a orginal post, read it on some blog which i can't remmeber.In case you know, let me know too..soo that i could give the rightful credit :)
